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How well do you know your partner? Sure you know the basics, otherwise you wouldn't know if you were compatible or not. Many couples think they know their partner because they know the types of movies, favorite food, sports, cars, cities, pets, hobbies, and activities. They might even know their political and religious views. They might even know their short and long term goals as well as their family background and financial status. While these things are all good and important to know, there is still one thing that can make or break a marriage if you don't know, and that thing is their sexual drive.

How important is sex to your partner? What is his/her sexual history? What does your partner like or not like about sex? How often does your partner masturbate? Where does your partner like to be touched? What is his/her favorite body part of the opposite sex? Does your partner like to watch porn? Why or why not? If they like porn, what type of porn is their favorite and why? Do you know your partners favorite fantasy? These are a lot of questions that you may or may not know. Here is an even more important question; can your partner answer all of these questions about you? Here is the most important question of all; Do you know these answers regarding yourself?

I was married for 5 years prior to my marriage now, and I can honestly say I did not know the answers for either of us before we were married. Nor did I know the answers when i signed my divorce papers. I have been married now for 14 years and I knew some of the answers, but not all. I have learned more about my partner the last year of our marriage then I have the other 13 years I've been married to him. This is why I created this website. I want to share what I have discovered regarding understanding your partners sexual needs and wants and express the importance of understanding them. My grandparents have been married for 56 years. I can almost promise you that they have never in their 56 years of marriage truly knew what made the other one click. You hear someone being married for 56 years and you ask them what their secret to staying married that long is? The answer is simple, they settled. What I mean by settled is they got in a routine, and even though they might not have liked it, they stuck to it and was content. Today's times are different. Being content doesn’t make a happy partner. Being content is being lazy. Even if both partners are content, they might run across something at work, bar, or other establishment that intrigues them and creates a spark they didn't even know they wanted. That is why we need to keep our partners excited and never get lazy. Keep exploring each other til the day you die. Desires change with time so new interests will always be there. Just knowing that your partner is trying to find new ways to excite you will trigger excitement. This in turn will make them want to excite you. Lazy is not sexy to anyone. Laziness shows no motivation. Think about it, if you see that your partner has no motivation to excite you, eventually you will take it personally and before you know it your partner is breaking you, your spirit, your esteem, your confidence and your sexual drive. Those things might just be the things he/she found the sexiest about you in the beginning. They will either settle, or look elsewhere for what they are looking for. Then they will just say they fell apart. When in all reality, they didn't grow apart, they became lazy. Don't become lazy. You need to not only know your partner, but keep wanting to learn more. Look at it as a continuing education class for a degree you already have. You keep learning. You need to want to learn about your partner. Once you know your partner, thrive to introduce him/her to new things. I personally get a thrill out of exciting him by trying new things. Since I have a solid foundation as to what turns him on, I build on that. Even if what you introduced to him/her didn't do it for them, just seeing the effort you made will be a turn on in itself. You are showing an interest, an effort, and a motivation to keep the excitement alive, and that is very sexy in itself.